Welcome to another edition of the Saturday article reprints.
You may have heard me say, “Use personal stories to help get your point across to your audience.”Â But when you use those stories, do you always make yourself the hero, the winner, the one who come to the rescue?
Below you will see what Craig Valentine has to say about that, and how it only hurts your audience.
3 Public Speaking Tools to Make Your Speech Worth it For Your Audience Members
By Craig Valentine
When you build yourself up, you let your audience down. Let’s face it; there are some speakers who use the platform to stroke their ego. I may have been one of them in the past. However, when we talk about how great we are and speak only of our successes, our audience members think of us in 1 of 2 ways:
1. “Wow, he sure is full of himself.”
2. “Well, I guess he is just special.”
As a speaker, being considered special is just as bad as being considered full of yourself. When your audience thinks you are special, they begin to think “Of course that strategy works for him because he is special. He is a genius.” They have a built-in excuse not to use your advice and, consequently, you become worthless to that audience. You can avoid this by using the following 3 Audience Impact Tools that will not only get you connected with your audience but will also spark them to act on your message.
Audience Impact Tool Number 1:
Put the process, not the person, on a pedestal. In other words, do not brag about yourself, brag about the process (or formula, recipe, toolkit, etc.) you have uncovered in your journeys. When you do this, the audience members think, “I am interested in learning more about this process. I do not know if it really works, but I am interested in learning more about it.” This gets your audience a little closer to taking an action on your message, because you have succeeded in building interest in your process rather than in you. However, there are still two major obstacles. Although they are interested in your process, they still are not sure if it really works. Your story should begin to prove to them that the process works, but Audience Impact Tool number 2 will take that credibility to another level.
Audience Impact Tool Number 2
Quantify your process. For example, in the midst of your story or activity, you might say, “I came across these tools that I now refer to as the 4 Rs to Remarkable Results that you can use to make change work for you instead of against you.” Or you might say, “This 4-step formula was used by the great orators of the past and the present. Everyone from Aristotle to Anthony Robbins has used these 4 steps.”
The reason you should quantify your process is because specifics build credibility. Your process goes from being a loose intangible and becomes a tight proven system. It also naturally builds the curiosity for your audience members to think, “I want to hear all 4 steps. Come on, what is step 1?” In this way, quantifying your process not only builds credibility in that process, but it also teases your audience to want to know more. As a result, they will buy into the fact that the process worked for you. However, they still might not think it will work for them. That is where tool number 3 comes in handy.
Audience Impact Tool Number 2
If you want your audience members to act on your message, you must help them feel like you (or the main characters in your story) are similar to them. Think similar, not separate. One strategy you can easily use is to break yourself down so your audience members know you are closer to them then you are to, say, Zeus.
For example, I regularly tell people the low score I received the first time I took the SATs. What do you think happens inside of the minds of my audience members?Chances are they think, “Well, if he can be successful at this, I can definitely be successful at this too. Let me listen up for what process he used to get from A to B.”
Many average speakers will not allow themselves to share their failures or open up to an audience in this way. However, the quickest way to build a connection with your audience is to share your failures, flaws, frustrations, and firsts (not all of your first, of course). If you do this, you will connect fast and deep.
Remember, your job as a speaker is usually to sell people on the results they will get when they utilize a certain formula, process, tool, or recipe. It has nothing to do with you being a genius, it has everything to do with your audience members uncovering the process that worked for you (or for your customers) and understanding that it will work for them too. During the presentation, remember to –
1. Put the process, not the person, on a pedestal
2. Quantify your process
3. Share your failures, flaws, frustrations, and firsts
Craig Valentine is the author of two books entitled World Class Speaking and The Nuts and Bolts of Public Speaking. He is the 1999 World Champion of Public Speaking and an internationally-known professional speaker. To get your FREE Masterful Speaking Toolkit, visit http://www.craigvalentine.com/
Do you some ideas in mind how you can change your stories so you aren’t the hero?